Cues

I was in a train when i saw this ads.Straight it reminds me of paralanguague. When we mention about non verbal communication(NVB), we are most likely to think of movements,body gestures,facial expressions and etc. But we'd(at least i am) never thought that spoken words(even written) are also Non verbal cues. Then it got me thinking about Glen's example on paralanguage( the example on fatin's distinguish look). This is the latest commercial from Bonuslink regarding on e-wallet or something similar to that about paying bills through cellphones(it doesn't matter). Now if you see the tagline says " WE PAY ALL YOUR BILLS". They are using paralanguage in their ads by higlighting the word "all" to give the spotlight on it with underlying meaning that all bills can be paid through this service..electric,phone bills, house loan and etc. I guess bonuslink has done a very good job, they caught my eyes.Sarcasm is one way of how we use paralanguage, perfectly with voice tone to emphasize even if it has been said with literal meaning (its one thing that im good at). For instance, once during Legal studies tutorial, we were asked to introduce ourself (with the age and all) and one of the students was hesitating to inform her age simply because she thought that she was the oldest in the class (she is 20 years old) and then, Jac chimed in and said " dont worry, Vick is older than you. he's 22" and Vick spontaneously replied "oh,thank you jac". He just knows how to be sarcastic. And just now i was watching Evan Almighty on Starmovies, i laughed my guts out when Evan said thanks for sharing after a bird pooped on his shoulder. That's one way to put it.

Another instance is when we're upset or frustrated. We say things like "i see", "right.." or anything when the other communicator said something that is in deed very long and we just give them a short reply to indicate that i am uber pissed off /frustrated. Sometimes we use it to show that we are not interested to communicate with them. Also, voice tone can tell you about yourself,your personlaity. Whether you are a confident or someone with low self esteem and etc. Even handshakes can tell your personality...partially. Thus, handshakes is important during interviews to maintain the good first impression. Again, this emphasis that first impression is important. Bear in mind that if you are about to hit on a girl, please maintain a good impression. There was this dude i saw at the train station, i can see that he was staring at me even he was standing 10 feet away from me. While i was at the counter, buying the train ticket, without hesitating, he came and stand near(beside) me. It was close enough to make me feel extremely uncomfortable. Proxemics(distance) is a very important element of communication. Instead of drawing my attention, this dude actually freaked me out. Now, gentlements, that is not the way to tackle a girl. Do that more often and you are most likely wont get any girl.




Yawning sometimes indicates " boring..."
(other than the fact the our brain is lacked of oxygen)